Keeping Balanced

So things have settled down at the office a little, of course the workload never really stops, but its all about keeping a balance. The situation that led to the the yelling in the office the other day was a complete leadership failure. It was my failure to trust and verify. Trust what someone says and verify it all the same. That second part is so important.

The beginning of the year is a great time for the renewal of commitments and relationships, but in that renewal process there comes a natural analysis of what those commitments and relationships mean to us. Sometimes it is hard to stare a relationship in the face and determine you've outgrown it or that it isn't healthy. It can be downright painful, in fact. Ultimately in the renewal of relationships and commitments is an affirmation that they are still right for you and you are right for them. If not, it means letting those go that are throwing you off balance.

I am not a pop-psych kind of Queer and don't believe a lot of the touchy-feely stuff. Maybe it is my B.A. in Psychology, but I tend to believe experience is the best teacher. Many of my friends have spent small fortunes in therapy only to say they "reached the end" with a particular therapist. Inevitably, they go on to another therapist and repeat every for another $175 an hour. Therapy can be awesome and I have respect for clients and therapists alike, but ultimately we must be able to make the decision whether something is good for us or not. When we are thrown off balance by a commitment or relationship, its not.